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CAPRICORN - The Go-Getter (Dec 22 - Jan 19) Patient and wise. Practical and rigid. Ambitious. Tends to be Good-looking. Humorous and funny.. Can be a bit shy and reserved. Often pessimistic. Capricorns tend to act before they think and can be Unfriendly at times. Hold grudges. Like competition. Get what they Want.

LIBRA - The Harmonizer (Sept 23 - Oct 22)
Nice to everyone they meet. Can’t make up their mind. Have own unique appeal. Creative, energetic, and very social. Hates to be alone. Peaceful, generous. Very loving and beautiful. Flirtatious. Give in too easily. Procrastinators. Very gullible. - The Sweetheart (Jan 20 - Feb 18) Optimistic and honest. Sweet personality. Very independent. Inventive and intelligent. Friendly and loyal. Can seem unemotional. Can be a bit rebellious. Very stubborn, but original and unique. Attractive on the inside and out. Eccentric personality.

PISCES

-         A guy’s sense of self is primarily defined through his ability to achieve results. They are motivated and attracted by success.

-         When a guy feels he can fulfill a girl, he feels inevitably more attracted to her.

-         When a girl shares her problems, a guy thinks he is making her feel better by offering solutions to fix it.

-         Guys relieve stress by going into their “caves” to figure out problem ALONE. They do need girls to go into their “caves” to help them feel better.

-         Guys hear unsolicited advice as critical and unloving, or worse, it makes him feel like a kid.

-         Guys don’t need to hear “I told you so…” when they made a mistake.

-         Guys don’t read girl’s mind. They are also not experts in ‘decoding’ hints. Girls will have to communicate explicitly their needs or wants to him.

-         A guy always assumes that if a girl is not asking for more, then he must be giving enough.

-         Girls can score many ‘bonus points’ with guys by forgiving their mistakes and being nice about them; the bigger the mistakes, the more points they get.

-         The basic needs of guys are to be trusted, be accepted and to feel appreciated for what he has done. They are more motivated to give when this basic need is met.

Getting the Message to HIM …

1.      Timing is Everything

2.    Check Your Attitude

3.    Say it directly and briefly

4.    Practice the golden rule of silence

Getting the Message to HER …

1.      Let her finish her say

2.    Express your empathy

3.    Show your love

4.    Rise to the occasion

5.     To the Romans be like the Romans

Every sixty seconds you spend angry, upset or mad, is a fullminute of happiness you’ll never get back.

Life is short, Break the rules, Forgive quickly, Kiss slowly, Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably, And never regret anything that made you smile.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here we should cheers.

1.   BE THE KIND OF DATE THAT YOU WANT TO DATE

2.   GET DATES AT THE RIGHT  PLACE

3.   BE APPROACHABLE

4.   LOOK FOR A FRIEND, NOT A MATE

5.   KNOW WHO PAYS FOR THE DATE

6.    BE CAREFUL WITH YOUR OPPINIONS

7.   UNDERSTAND DIFFERENCES EXIST

8.   BE THE RIGHT ONE

9.  MAKE   NEW  FRIENDS

1. Look for Common Interest
2. Pay Attention to Values
3. Don’t Try to Change the Other Person
4. Be True to Yourself
5. Expect Good Communications and Don’t Run from Conflict
6. Don’t Play Games, Pressure, or Manipulate Someone
7. Be True to for How You Want to Be Treated

From “Just Married” magazine:

1. Give and Take

2. Trust your Man

3. Communicate often (communication, trust, humour and don’t allow quarrels to brew overnight)

4. Look at big picture

5. Art of Compromise (give in to each other, as no one is perfect so compromise and look at good points and don’t remember faults. by Actress Xiang Yun with Edmund Chen)

6. Be considerate

1. Disagree lovingly (Use non accusatory even tone and don’t finger point/personal attack). Channel negative energy to constructive problem solving

2. Define roles and responsiblities early on. (whoever gets the job done more efficiently takes the role. Be fair and don’t overload)

3. Think the best of your partner.

4. Be aware of gender differences.

5. Open a “love relationship” bank

6. Schedule exclusive “you and me”time (eg. 15 mins after dinner personal time, complimented by a date night every month and a longer weekend getaway half a year)

7.Take care of emotional needs of partner to forify the physical aspects

8. Know yourself better

9. Count 10 before lashing out anger

10. Don’t go to bed angry with each other (anger and ill feeling have a habit of festering over time)

Eg. of conflicts:

1.Differences (eg. habits)

2. In-Laws (eg Asian husband must know it is not less filial by speaking up for the wife. If wife don’t agree with in law’s behaviours, she should discuss with husband)

3. Money

4. Expectations

5. Children (Instead of putting down the spouse, show support. Discuss why u feel unhappy with each other’s decision if there is a difference in parentig. Avoid blame and solve conflicts)

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7  ways to resolve conflict:

1. Set aside time regularly and remain objective

2. Say I instead of You

3. Focus on the issue

4. Release rage the right way (Staying anger makes the other spouse angry instead of working it out. Channel by exercising or taking breadths. learn to identify why you are angry and express it appropriately)

5. Listen to spouse’s arguement (instead of interrupting or countering, acknowledge by saying “You are right” or “im sorry” to resolve conflict)

6. Make relationship your priority. Avoid name calling or mention “divorce”. Remain constructive.

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(Pts 1-6 and above content is from Just Married Magazine)

1. Attitude towards relationship

Man are task orientated but women establish relationship first. Spell out before discussion

2. Processing information

Men pprocess internatlly but woman process information out loudly. Men must understand that women do not want solution but want a listening ear.

3. Leadership style

Men are hierachical and should discard ego and CONSULTATION SHOULD BE BETWEEN COUPLE NOT EXTENDED FAMILY. They must be consulted widely first

4. Communication style

men thinks nodding indicated agreement but women uses body languages. Man has to use body cues.

5.  Conversation style

Men assert their opinions and offer advice and give short direct sentences. Women use conversation to create rapport and relationship.

6. Articulate ideas

Men talk and interrupt more than women. Women try to be make sure there is equality in discussion.