A pair of Sunbirds came recently, some 2 months ago and made a nest on the string of my bamboo chit. It’s located at just the right level for me to peek through the nest. You can’t get any closer without climbing a tree to view and so I’m really glad they flew by! Too bad I didn’t manage to take the “construction” of t…he nest. These pics chronicle the birth of the 2nd set of baby birds and they are still growing this very min I’m typing! They make really adorable little chirpy noises and are generally yellow with male birds having a dark navy blue head. Such a joy seeing them grow! Fly away birdie! *wheet!*

My wife and I took the following video and we thought it is great to share this little joy. Enjoy the Video:

-         A guy’s sense of self is primarily defined through his ability to achieve results. They are motivated and attracted by success.

-         When a guy feels he can fulfill a girl, he feels inevitably more attracted to her.

-         When a girl shares her problems, a guy thinks he is making her feel better by offering solutions to fix it.

-         Guys relieve stress by going into their “caves” to figure out problem ALONE. They do need girls to go into their “caves” to help them feel better.

-         Guys hear unsolicited advice as critical and unloving, or worse, it makes him feel like a kid.

-         Guys don’t need to hear “I told you so…” when they made a mistake.

-         Guys don’t read girl’s mind. They are also not experts in ‘decoding’ hints. Girls will have to communicate explicitly their needs or wants to him.

-         A guy always assumes that if a girl is not asking for more, then he must be giving enough.

-         Girls can score many ‘bonus points’ with guys by forgiving their mistakes and being nice about them; the bigger the mistakes, the more points they get.

-         The basic needs of guys are to be trusted, be accepted and to feel appreciated for what he has done. They are more motivated to give when this basic need is met.

Getting the Message to HIM …

1.      Timing is Everything

2.    Check Your Attitude

3.    Say it directly and briefly

4.    Practice the golden rule of silence

Getting the Message to HER …

1.      Let her finish her say

2.    Express your empathy

3.    Show your love

4.    Rise to the occasion

5.     To the Romans be like the Romans

1. Attitude towards relationship

Man are task orientated but women establish relationship first. Spell out before discussion

2. Processing information

Men pprocess internatlly but woman process information out loudly. Men must understand that women do not want solution but want a listening ear.

3. Leadership style

Men are hierachical and should discard ego and CONSULTATION SHOULD BE BETWEEN COUPLE NOT EXTENDED FAMILY. They must be consulted widely first

4. Communication style

men thinks nodding indicated agreement but women uses body languages. Man has to use body cues.

5.  Conversation style

Men assert their opinions and offer advice and give short direct sentences. Women use conversation to create rapport and relationship.

6. Articulate ideas

Men talk and interrupt more than women. Women try to be make sure there is equality in discussion.