A pair of Sunbirds came recently, some 2 months ago and made a nest on the string of my bamboo chit. It’s located at just the right level for me to peek through the nest. You can’t get any closer without climbing a tree to view and so I’m really glad they flew by! Too bad I didn’t manage to take the “construction” of t…he nest. These pics chronicle the birth of the 2nd set of baby birds and they are still growing this very min I’m typing! They make really adorable little chirpy noises and are generally yellow with male birds having a dark navy blue head. Such a joy seeing them grow! Fly away birdie! *wheet!*

My wife and I took the following video and we thought it is great to share this little joy. Enjoy the Video:

Somewhere I read about this:

15mins of anger

15 mins of patchup

15 hrs of hugs

15 days of kisses

15 decades of love

Every sixty seconds you spend angry, upset or mad, is a fullminute of happiness you’ll never get back.

Life is short, Break the rules, Forgive quickly, Kiss slowly, Love truly, Laugh uncontrollably, And never regret anything that made you smile.

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we’re here we should cheers.

Eg. of conflicts:

1.Differences (eg. habits)

2. In-Laws (eg Asian husband must know it is not less filial by speaking up for the wife. If wife don’t agree with in law’s behaviours, she should discuss with husband)

3. Money

4. Expectations

5. Children (Instead of putting down the spouse, show support. Discuss why u feel unhappy with each other’s decision if there is a difference in parentig. Avoid blame and solve conflicts)

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7  ways to resolve conflict:

1. Set aside time regularly and remain objective

2. Say I instead of You

3. Focus on the issue

4. Release rage the right way (Staying anger makes the other spouse angry instead of working it out. Channel by exercising or taking breadths. learn to identify why you are angry and express it appropriately)

5. Listen to spouse’s arguement (instead of interrupting or countering, acknowledge by saying “You are right” or “im sorry” to resolve conflict)

6. Make relationship your priority. Avoid name calling or mention “divorce”. Remain constructive.

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(Pts 1-6 and above content is from Just Married Magazine)

Allan Wu and Wong Li Lin shares in “Just Married” magazine:

Allan: Communicating with each other is important. Instead of letting your unhappiness fester and snowball into serious issues, better express it and let your spouse know how you feel and why you feel this way.

Li Lin: Don’t take the problem personally. At of the day, settle it together. key lies in communicating without degrading or disrespecting the other person without letting yourself be managed by emotions.

The couple take case by case approach to disagreements and if its trival they iron it out immediately; if its emotionally charged, they wait for each other to cool down before tackling the issue. However they never go to bed angry with each other or become so furious that they give each other the silent treatment.

-Much as we put effort to make love romantic, we should not over-romantise love.There are romantic moments to cherish but we must be aware if there’s so much love, there may be so much pain. If we look at the past always, eg dwelling in courtship days, then there’s a danger of never in present and thats where problems can occur.

- Marriage is a good learning ground for everyone because the highs are wonderful and the lows can be worked out. Marriage is not the finishing line but the beginning.